The pairs figure skaters glide across the ice, no longer two people. United in their twists, turns, jumps, and lifts - they look like they have one mind, one heart, one life.
This is a good picture of God's intention for the union of husband and wife. Marriage is not two separate individuals who happen to live together. Genesis 2 says, "A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
This requires effort from both partners. Other people's "perfect" marriages make it look easy. We don't see the early years, the "You're wrong, I'm right," budget's tight, late-night fights. Those figure skaters make it look easy too, but we don't see their years of hard work after their first stumbling steps on the ice; the discussions over which turns to take, what moves to make. You do not see the times they fall hard on the ice.
Except when you do. The man stumbles. When he goes to lift the woman, she remembers all the times they failed. She doubts that he will now do it right. Because she is distracted, he cannot lift her properly. They collapse in a heap.
Even God's dearly loved people struggle in marriage. Husbands and wives find themselves skating in opposite directions, skating into the wall, and even skating on thin ice. In those times, remember Colossians 3:13: "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."
How does the Lord forgive? Freely, totally, completely. Our Father forgives us even though it came at a great cost to Him - He had to sacrifice His Son so that we could have life in union with Him. When we wonder if our spouse is the same lovebird that we dated, we find the strength to forgive in Christ, who paid for our sins with His death. It can be hard. It might even cost you something. But you will find the strength to live at peace with them knowing the price God paid to live at peace with you.
Any and all material from me is free to be used without attribution.
Send RevLynch an email.